We communicate every day and sometimes times in every hour of the day while we are awake weather we know it or not. Communication is being able to communicate with intent and with a goal in mind. We want to be able to get the correct message across depending on the situation and the relationship we have with the person we are communicating with.
Common Communication Errors
Sometimes we communicate with everyone the same. If we believe that everyone knows what we are saying, it’s very possible that we can be misunderstood. How many times have you heard “What am I….. a mind reader?” Knowing the person you are communicating with, and being aware of the verbal and non verbal cues in communication will go a long way to making sure that the message that you want to get across is the message that is received.
Being able to listen and hear a message is important to being able to participate as effectively as we can in the conversation. Listening with an open mind and not judging the message will also contribute to success in the exchange. We often start a conversation or exchange with a message in mind or a response ready to go for the message we hear. Being able to presently listen to the other person means you actually hear and understand what is said. If you are unsure of the message make sure you clarify with questions or by repeating back to the person so you are sure. Misunderstandings are a cause of many communication errors and not asking questions.
Two Way Communication
The ability to listen and hear a message is important to making sure that you are participating as effectively as you can within the conversation. Listening with an open mind will contribute to your success in the exchange. Often people listen to someone, but as they are hearing what the speaker is saying, they are formulating their response or making a judgement on what is being said before the sentence is finished.
It is important to listen all the way through and even ask questions if you are not entirely sure of the message being given. It is also easy when receiving a message, to take things personally that are not meant to be personal. Be sure you are very informed of the intent of your conversations with others before making any judgments.